Friends and Family of Survivors
How to Help a Friend who is a Survivor of Sexual Assault or Relationship Violence
- Listen, and do not judge.
- Believe his or her story.
- Give comfort, if he or she wants it.
- Be available and offer shelter if he or she doesn't want to be alone.
- Let he or she know that he or she is not to blame.
- Help him or her figure out his or her options for what action to take, but accept his or her choice of solution.
- Put aside your own feelings, and deal with them somewhere else.
Know that a Survivor often needs to:
- Know his or her options.
- Feel safe.
- Be believed.
- Know it was not his or her fault.
- Take control of his or her life.
SARN is here to support you too! If you need to talk, please consider our free and confidential services! We know that being a friend or family member is often very difficult and stressful, but also know that the survivor appreciates your willingness to listen and care.
Thanks for being a good friend!